Nearly Every Spieces, Cheating Is The Rule- For Both Sexes!

I found this book,"The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People" by David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton (May 2002)
and I'm so liking it!!

But if you read it in public do not be disturbed with people looking you oddly and with disgust. =)
So if you can't deal with that, then read it in solitude
It's the world and the moral rules with humans.. we are supposed to be monogamous even though it goes against our nature. Well here's overwiev of it:

"Applying new research to sex in the animal world, esteemed scientists David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton dispel the notion that monogamy comes naturally. In fact, as The Myth of Monogamy reveals, biologists have discovered that for nearly every species, cheating is the rule -- for both sexes.

Reviewing findings from the same DNA fingerprinting science employed in the courtroom, Barash and Lipton take readers from chickadee nests to chimpanzee packs to explain why animals cheat. (Some prostitute themselves for food or protection, while others strive to couple with genetically superior or multiple mates.) The Myth of Monogamy then illuminates the implications of these dramatic new findings for humans, in our relationships, as parents, and more.

The Myth of Monogamy at last brings scientific insight into this emotionally charged aspect of the ultimate dating and marriage quandary."


The book mirrors my thoughts. The book does not tell you not to marry, but it brings out the reality.. If you do get married, don't think that wedding vows will automatically make you and your partner monogamy. it's studiet that monogamous relations are far more the exception than the rule.

David P. Barash and Judith Eve paraphrase the anthropologist Margaret Mead, who once suggested that monogamy is the hardest of all human marital arrangements.


"It is also one of the rarest," they write. "In attempting to maintain a social and sexual bond consisting exclusively of one man and one woman, aspiring monogamists are going against some of the deepest-seated evolutionary inclinations with which biology has endowed most creatures, Homo sapiens included."


Ofcourse they take in the fact that there is difference between humans and animals!!! :D

Can you give and take?

You will always here how you should give,give,give and give in order to receive. Well sometimes it feels like all you do is give and get nothing in return. Should you then stop and think about yourself for a while? Give to yourself!!

Give yourself the freedom not to be prisoner of your feelings.. Just aknowledge them and then let them just slide away. Because as long as you let your emotions get the most of you, by hanging on to good (or bad) feelings, that long you are prisoned by them.

I talk now mainly about feelings you feel whilst in falling in love. You have that special someone in your life, and you see the world differently, everything is beatiful when that special one is with you, calls you, mails you,etc. Your life seems easier and sky looks blue no matter what.. Know what I'm talking?

Now, STOP! Think about it! Make yourself aware how much you are giving power to this other person through your feelings?
Don't get me wrong, ofcourse you should enjoy about the happy feelings you are going through,but you should never be attached to these feelings. YOU are NOT the same as your toughts!

By attaching yourself to the emotions you are letting someone else to deside how you feel. I mean situation where the special one turns his back on you, treats you badly. Then you feel like your world comes trumbling down. But in reality it's you that is doing it. Nobody can be happy or sad for you. You decide how you feel. Darkness can never touch light if the light doesn't ask for it.

So be aware of your emotions, feel them, but let them go. Give yourself the gift of letting go, take the best of everything and be happy.

Think about that. It brings you freedom and inner peace. You are not the same as your feelings. Feelings come and go, you stay. ;)

Open relationship instead?

This is just the first little peek in my blog about this subject. Just that you know and don't judge me for this blog: I have been cheated and I know how that feels, but also I've been on the other side and know also how easily you may find yourself from that track.. (especially if things are not right in your relationship area )

I have wondered in this love wanting universe, that maybe love really comes by giving. Letting everyone be just what they really are. To enjoy one as they are. Not to force love anymore.

There is so much divorces and cheating that, maybe it's time to think differently and against the mainstream..